Hey, exhausted parents - are you in the thick of the newborn witching hour? If so, let's talk.

Oh that lovely nightly ritual where your sweet angel baby turns into a tiny tyrant, wailing their lungs out, leaving you feeling like you've stumbled into a sleep-deprived horror show. I’ve been there. And if you're in desperate need of some serious shut-eye, maybe it's time to call in the cavalry – a postpartum doula or sleep consultant – because let's face it, you deserve some damn sleep!

If you’re a new parent know this: the witching hour is a universal struggle. Newborns don't come with manuals, and navigating the intense evenings and sleepless days and nights can feel like you're drowning. But there's hope. With the right strategies and a bit of grit (just like Detroit does!), you can turn the witching hour into something more manageable. So, let's dive into my six essential tips to help you get through those tough hours and reclaim some peace in your home.

1. Stop Expecting Perfection: Read on, because this is your new reality. The witching hour isn't just a phase; it's a rite of passage. Your peaceful home will inevitably turn into a whirlwind of cries and confusion every night for a couple of hours. Perfection is a myth, especially when it comes to parenting. Accepting that things won't go smoothly all the time can bring a surprising sense of relief. The sooner you let go of the need for everything to be perfect, the sooner you'll find some comfort in the inevitable messiness of these moments.

2. Tag Team Like Your Sanity Depends on It: Repeat after me: You are not in this alone. Rally your troops – partner, family, friends, – whoever is willing and able to jump into the trenches with you. Create a game plan for tackling the witching hour together. Whether it's taking turns soothing the baby, giving you a break to shower and eat, or simply offering moral support, having help can make all the difference.

3. Turn Your Home Into A Calming Oasis: Babies are used to dark, muffled noises and tight spaces from their time in the womb. To help soothe your newborn during the witching hour, recreate this comforting environment at home. Dim the lights, turn off the television, and create a cozy, snug space for your baby to rest. Incorporate white noise or gentle lullabies. This can provide your little one with a sense of security and familiarity, making those challenging hours a bit more manageable for everyone

4. Say It with Me Now: Skin-to-Skin Contact! This simple yet powerful practice can work wonders during the witching hour. Holding your newborn close, skin-to-skin, helps regulate their temperature, heart rate, and breathing, creating a soothing effect for both of you. It strengthens your bond and can significantly reduce crying and fussiness. Strip down to your baby’s diaper and place them on your bare chest, letting your warmth and heartbeat provide comfort.

5. Give Co-Bathing a Try: This one might be a little controversial, but if you haven't tried co-bathing yet, you're missing out on a fantastic way to calm your newborn during the witching hour. Co-bathing, or sharing a warm bath with your baby, can create a serene and soothing environment for both of you. The warm water mimics the womb, helping your little one feel secure and relaxed. It also gives you a chance to bond with skin-to-skin, enhancing that calming connection. Make sure the water isn’t too hot, put on soft music, keep the lighting low, and enjoy this peaceful time together.

6. Know When to Call in the Pros: Sometimes, despite your best efforts, the witching hour feels like an unwinnable battle. And that's okay. It doesn't mean you're a failure as a parent; it just means you're a human. So if you find yourself teetering on the edge of sanity, it might be time to call in the big guns – your postpartum doula. Schedule your doula for the evening hours when things are toughest. Have them help you with creating a plan to manage things. They are well skilled at educating families and helping them find strategies that work well and they’re a great option for giving yourself a much needed break!

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a testament to your strength and dedication to your newborn. Don't hesitate to reach out for support when needed, whether it's from a doula, a friend, or a family member. Additionally, try to put yourself in your newborn's tiny shoes and think about what would bring them comfort and calmness. Experiment with different strategies and don't be afraid to adapt as you go. By being proactive and open to seeking assistance, you'll not only survive the witching hour but also create a nurturing environment where both you and your baby can thrive.